Another one bites the dust…

So, it has now been a week since Lisa, one of the other foreigners on the island, left.  Other than Erin, who vaguely doesn’t count as she is married to a Korean and will be living here for a few years to come, at least, Lisa was the person who had been here the longest (well, of those still here), and so it was weird to see her leave.  She was sort of my mentor for my first month or so here, and she helped me through some pretty tough and/or aggravating situations, and I really owe a lot to her.  Without her advice, I probably would have left back in June or July, and then I would have been up shit creek without a paddle.

In my final week of college, people had already started packing up and going home.  When the first person on my hall (we were all friends, and had chosen to live together) came by my door to say she was leaving (though returning the next year, as she was a 2nd year), I had a weird moment in which I realized that in all likelihood, I would never see that person again, along with many people on the campus who I knew and considered at least acquaintances, if not friends.  It was very surreal, and when she said “Have a good summer!” I awkwardly replied with “Have a nice….life?”, because really, I felt that was the most appropriate answer.  Over the next year, I did go back to campus several times, as I spent the year wandering around the east coast, staying on friends’ couches and in my car, but I only saw a small selection of people.  Truly, in waving goodbye to those people as they moved out of their dorm rooms, I was waving goodbye to someone I wouldn’t ever see again, and even though I have moved around quite a bit in my life (I currently stand at 17 times in 7 years), that felt pretty weird.

So, when I waved goodbye to Lisa as I watched her be driven off to the bus station, I had that same feeling.  She mentioned that she may come back to Korea, but it wouldn’t be for probably a year, and definitely not until I will already be back in the states.  In theory, I could see her again if I were to go to Nova Scotia again, as I think she and her boyfriend will be living in Halifax, but it’s probably unlikely, especially given gas prices.  In fact, in all likelihood, I will never see *any* of the people I meet here again, once I leave, and that’s very weird to think about.  Sarah, one of the other Jindo foreigners, astutely said the other day that when you’re an expat, you get very used to saying goodbye to people, and that really couldn’t be more true.

So, here’s some photos from her going-away party (she’s the one in red).  Enjoy.

Lisa, if you’re reading this, we miss you!


9 Responses to “Another one bites the dust…”

  1. 1 CanadianSwiss October 25, 2008 at 6:30 pm

    Hi Kelsey. Thanks for your comment on my blog. I really enjoyed reading through your blogs, too. And sure, you can add my link to your blogroll. That would make me very happy.

    We’ve been a bit blog-lazy lately, not to mention that our weekends have been very busy, but we hope to put up posts about our trip to Egypt very soon. Only problem is… which few of the 1400 picts do we choose to publish?!!?! Decisions, decisions… 😉

  2. 2 Driftingfocus October 25, 2008 at 11:24 pm

    Thanks! And don’t worry, sometimes I get blog-lazy too. But, I generally have to be at work from 9-5 and yet I only teach about 3 hours a day, so I have a lot of free time where I have to be at my computer, but I’m not working. So, blogging is my solution. 😉

    I look forward to seeing your Egypt pics! Two of the teachers from this island recently moved to Cairo to teach P.E. and yoga at a school there, and they have yet to post any.

    By the way – how did you end up in Switzerland? I’m curious, as it’s my favourite country.

  3. 3 Amanda October 26, 2008 at 3:32 am

    Hi Kelsey,

    I’m glad you enjoy my blog. Like you, I like to find expat blogs and see where people are living and the experiences they are having. You are welcome to post links to my site on yours. Happy blogging!

  4. 4 Driftingfocus October 26, 2008 at 3:48 am

    It’s pretty cool that you’re living on Sakhalin Island. Seems like an unusual place, a combination of Russian culture and Asian culture, I would assume.

    You’re under no obligation to add me a link back, but feel free, if you want to.

  5. 5 Ms Mac October 26, 2008 at 11:52 am

    I try to only make friends with people who, even if I know I’ll never see them again, I know will at least provide me with an amusing anecdote to tell new friends and acquaintances!


  6. 6 Rob October 26, 2008 at 6:30 pm

    Hi Kelsey,

    Thanks for commenting on my blog. Please feel free to add me to your blog role…
    … happy blogging.

  7. 7 Driftingfocus October 27, 2008 at 12:10 am

    Ms Mac: Indeed. It’s a good life philosophy!

    Rob: Thanks! Feel free to add me back, but you’re not under any obligation to do so.

  8. 8 Little Swallow October 30, 2008 at 11:46 am

    Yeah, I remember the awkward “Have a nice life” line in college … and then the many people who, at various points in the first year I worked at the college, gave me this long perplexed/suspicious look, and finally asked, “Waaaaaait … didn’t you, um … leave?”

    I’ll be doing the same in the next few months when I leave my job for China. A friend/colleague of mine asked me yesterday, “So, are we ever going to see you again?” And in all likelihood … no. I will be back in the area for a few weeks in the summer, so possibly, but not definitely, and after that B goes to law school in an area that’s not here.

    Final farewells are always weird.

  9. 9 Driftingfocus October 31, 2008 at 11:23 pm

    Yeah, I would have a hard time working at the college, I think. I’m too much of a kid, and I’d probably act more like a student than an employee.

    So do you think you two will be moving out of Massachusetts when you get back?

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